Dating a man going through divorce advice
She then told her friends how her ex had been dating several women but had recently started coming back around to her, wanting forgiveness and to start over. I needed to hear the rest of her story, so I stopped and distracted my kids with some shells a few feet next to them so I could listen. While it took me six years to leave, I will always remember her, and the story she was telling.“I’m in a different place, and I know if we got back together it would just backfire. Not because I am a nosy person, but because my husband was acting so strange lately, that I’d asked my best friend and sisters for advice. Her words left an impression on me, and through the years before I ended my marriage, I often thought, I’ve done my best.I’ve been on a few dates with two different men since my divorce — both who are in their 40s and have gone through a divorce themselves within the past few years.I’m not a psychologist, nor am I a relationship expert, but they all still seemed so hurt, which came off as being angry.
He was dating three different women within a week, and after a month, got very serious with one of those women. I just know I truly want my ex to take the time he needs to get over the damage divorce leaves — because no matter who you are, you have scars from this.
This post-divorce business is tough to navigate; we are all just trying to do our best.
As for me, I am ready to meet someone to make special memories with, but I don’t want to try and move forward with a man who is not ready — because then, no one will win.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you’ve been and where God wants you to go.
Healing is also necessary to follow God’s command to” do unto others what you would have them do unto you,” (Matthew ).