Being a widower and dating intimedating women
Photos do not indicate a person is stuck or that they aren’t ready to date.
The wonderful and amazing thing about human beings is that we don’t have a finite capacity for love.
As always, at the end of the article, you will find our wild and wonderful comment section, where we welcome your thoughts and experiences.
Before we jump into the FAQs, it’s a good idea for who cares about a grieving person to have a baseline understanding of grief. Actually, we do have a post answering this question, but the conversation bears repeating because this is our most commonly asked question.
Younger kids are known for testing adults to make sure their stories are consistent, so being on the same page with language and information is crucial. If there is an opportunity to show your interest in learning about the parent who died, great!
Show interest and ask questions, but don’t force it.
Think about it – people aren’t erased from their families or their family history simply because they have died.
I am dating a widow who still displays photos of their late partner in their home. This is true if the deceased person is the parent of children who live in or visit the home.
Ask yourself: Why are you uncomfortable with the relationship? If you are uncomfortable with the relationship, it is reasonable to express your feelings (you have a right to your feelings, after all). I am dating a widow(er) who has children and I am really nervous about meeting them. Make sure you are both on the same page about what the kids have been told and how you are being introduced.
Do you feel concerned their late partner’s family won’t accept you? What you decide may depend on the age of the children, whether you are the first person the widow(er) has dated (or at least who the kids have met), etc.
Always remember that the parent/partner who died is still a member of the family.
You aren’t there to replace that person, rather fill a new and different space in the family.